Monday, October 27, 2008

THE 4 RULES FOR LEADING IN A CRISIS

1. Project a Sense of Calm

Just as panic is contagious, so too is a sense of calm, which when it kicks in can settle the frayed nerves of those around you. In a crisis, you should project a sense of continuity, of having managed through similarly difficult predicaments, and of applying the lessons learned in a calm and reasoned manner to the situation at hand.

Responding to such pressure in a cool, calm and collected way requires being guided by your mind rather than your emotions. There are different areas of the brain which govern us when we are thinking clearly and calmly on the one hand and when we are operating in a state of anxiety or fear on the other hand. When it comes to working in a crisis, we perform at our best when we are guided by the prefrontal cortex, the area of the brain that plans and reasons.

When we are scared or anxious, however, we are driven by the part of the brain that produces the fight-or-flight emotions. By simply deciding to project a sense of calm, not only will you be quelling the fears of those around you, but you will be consciously triggering the part of your brain that will enable you to problem-solve your way through the situation.

Whether it is the current credit crisis, the dot-com bust of 2000, the Asian debt crisis of 1997, or Black Monday in October 1987, Wall Street and the economy have been through many "sky is falling" crises. After this passes, the economy and markets will still function and survive, often, healthier than before. As Mr. Dilenschneider said, "Remember; this too shall pass!"

2. Take Early and Decisive Action on Personnel

If you are in a management position during a crisis or period of great uncertainty you should also create an immediate feeling of decisiveness and accountability, according to Mr. Dilenschneider. You need to decide early on which employees you need to let go and which you are going to keep. The goal is to reduce the sense of uncertainty as soon as possible and get everyone focused on the tasks at hand. One dilemma is that the very people who let you get into the current difficulty are often times the best-equipped to help you get out of it.

The analysis of what to do with the individuals involved must be objective and fact-based and must weigh the advantages to the organization of their departure in terms of morale, public perception or operations compared to the loss these individuals in terms of their expertise and relationships. If you decide to retain these individuals, you as a manager must make sure to align their incentives with those of the organization. Once you have decided who to keep, in order to calm down still skittish employees you should reassure them that their jobs are secure -- at least until the organization navigates its way out of the crisis.

3. Ensure That the Information You Receive is Accurate

Mr. Dilenschneider has advised scores of clients during many crises and has come to believe that the single most important thing you can do as a manager during a crisis is to ensure that the information flowing to you and your team is comprehensive and accurate. He says that under no circumstances can you delegate the collection of information to subordinates whose interests could diverge from yours or that of the organization. Recognize that they will naturally be focused on their own survival while your concern as a leader is the well-being of your organization. You must play a hands-on role in determining what information you need, how it will be obtained, and how and to whom it will be disseminated.

From a communications perspective, what you say publicly and privately must be consistent. The levels of detail you share may differ, but what you discuss publicly must be both accurate and consistent with what you are saying to your team and more broadly inside the organization. If you violate this rule, the inconsistency will find its way out, into conversations with others and with the media. That then would undermine everything else you are saying and doing and create more, rather than less, panic.

4. Manage Yourself First

Finally, Mr. Dilenschneider stresses that above everything else, the one thing that you must do when disorder replaces order is "seize control of your own head." In times of distress, it is often easy to get swept away in the flow of events. It is imperative that throughout the crisis, you as a manager take care of yourself, get enough rest, and keep stress levels as low as possible. It is well documented that you make poor decisions when you are tired and stressed. Yet many top executives ignore their own health and state of mind in times of trouble. As a manager, your job is to make good decisions. By taking care of yourself you are helping do your job by improving the quality of the decisions you will make.

To take care of yourself properly, follow the same advice that you surely give to others:

* Put limits on your workday. You can't function well in your job if you are fatigued. Cap the number of hours you work and carve out enough time to make sure that you get enough sleep and spend some time every day with your family.

* Practice deep breathing and take a nap. Both can be done in a few minutes and can be vital in maintaining your equilibrium.

* Maintain your exercise routine. When a crisis starts to fill up your schedule, the daily workout is often one of the first things to get pushed aside. Make it the last. Exercise keeps your mind sharp and routine helps you retain a sense of calm.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

ONE GOD/ONE SOURCE (QURAN)

In the strictest possible language, we are commanded to uphold Quran, the

whole Quran, and nothing but Quran.

Repeatedly, we are commanded to uphold Quran as the ONLY SOURCE OF

RELIGIOUS GUIDANCE.

Again and again, we are reminded that the following of ANY OTHER SOURCE

BESIDE QURAN EQUALS THE SETTING UP OF OTHER GODS BESIDE GOD.

Verses 22 through 38 of Sura 17 represent some of the most important

commandments in Quran. Immediately following these verses we find the verse

shown below:

“This is some of the wisdom revealed to you (in this Quran), and YOU SHALL

NOT SET UP ANY OTHER GOD BESIDE GOD (by following any other source beside

Quran). Otherwise, you will be thrown into hell, blamed and debased.”

(17:39)

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

{Ephisians 6:8}


International Standard Version (©2008)
because you know that everyone will receive a reward from the Lord for whatever good he has done, whether he is a slave or free.
New American Standard Bible (©1995)
knowing that whatever good thing each one does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether slave or free.
GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)
You know that your heavenly master will reward all of us for whatever good we do, whether we're slaves or free people.
King James Bible
Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
American King James Version
Knowing that whatever good thing any man does, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
American Standard Version
knowing that whatsoever good thing each one doeth, the same shall he receive again from the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
Bible in Basic English
In the knowledge that for every good thing anyone does, he will have his reward from the Lord, If he is a servant or if he is free.
Douay-Rheims Bible
Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man shall do, the same shall he receive from the Lord, whether he be bond, or free.
Darby Bible Translation
knowing that whatever good each shall do, this he shall receive of the Lord, whether bond or free.
English Revised Version
knowing that whatsoever good thing each one doeth, the same shall he receive again from the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
Webster's Bible Translation
Knowing that whatever good thing any man doeth, the same will he receive from the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
Weymouth New Testament
You well know that whatever right thing any one does, he will receive a requital for it from the Lord, whether he is a slave or a free man.
World English Bible
knowing that whatever good thing each one does, he will receive the same again from the Lord, whether he is bound or free.
Young's Literal Translation
having known that whatever good thing each one may do, this he shall receive from the Lord, whether servant or freeman.

Friday, September 26, 2008

CHANGING YOUR CORE VALUES

Since your outer world is a reflection of your inner world and at the core of your inner world are your values, it becomes necessary to examine and probably reprioritize and/or change your current core values to be more congruent with the life that you desire for yourself. Although I could explain neuro-linguistic programming techniques and value-shifting for days, I’ll give you a very simplified procedure to identify and update your core values.

1. Write 5-10 personal values that are most important to you right now.

2. Define and clarify exactly what those values mean to you. For example, the value of courage happens to be one of my personal values and I clarify it for myself by writing: “Courage-to face my fears and move forward regardless.” This is a very important step because by doing so, you begin to take more ownership into those otherwise generic values by making them your own.

3. Organize that list of values in a hierarchy with the most important value at the top.

4. Now write 5-10 goals that you want to achieve. Obviously, a goal to have a more peaceful and less dramatic life would be a goal that should be on your personal list. After you create your list of goals, prioritize them just like your values list.

5. Compare your value list and your goal list. Ideally, the top values on your list should be perfectly congruent with the top goals that you have. Most of the time, they are not, which is the primary reason why most people are not able to achieve optimal performance and progress on their goals. Remember that your values are what is most important to you and your goals are the important things that you want to achieve in your life. There must be a synergy between both your values and your goals in order for success to happen.

6. If a top priority goal for you is to have a peaceful life, then you have to change your core values (the top three values on your values list) to correspond to that goal. Do this by either reprioritizing your current list, or by installing new values as your core values that directly relate to that goal. Some obvious choices that come to mind are: peace, happiness, tranquility, calmness, etc.

7. 21-day reprogramming. It takes approximately 21 days of constant repetition and use to replace old values with new ones. With respect to your new values, the most practical way that has worked for my coaching clients is to write those core values down on index cards and carry those core values with you everywhere you go. Also, write on those cards incantations that you will repeat to yourself throughout the day to reprogram your mind with those values. You should ideally repeat those values at least 100 times during the course of the day and there is no need to say them out loud, as long as your mind is clearly hearing the message. An example of an incantation for a core value is: “I value peace and happiness in my life everyday.” Initially, there will be some internal resistance and your mind will reject those statements as being “stupid” or “silly” because they are not congruent with your current life. This is absolutely normal, but it is also where most people fail because they give it up as not working for them. But if you keep this up for 21 days, you will begin to adopt these values into your life and your actions and decisions will begin to be congruent with those newly installed values and your problems with upset people and conflict situations should melt away along with those old beliefs.

While I realize that these suggestions may not be a cure-all for your problems, I do believe that these suggestions offer a very solid platform from which you can begin to investigate how to create a positive and meaningful change in your life to produce a greater sense of happiness and well-being.

Friday, August 29, 2008

HOW TO HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF

If you want respect from other people, you may first have to develop respect for yourself. Even if people respect or befriend you anyway, eventually you will need to have respect for yourself, or else you may drive your friends away or prevent yourself from forming new friendships. And, of course, self-respect and self-esteem is very important even for introverts, shy people, or loners (each very different personality types, of course) to lead a satisfying life.

HERE'S HOW:

  1. Don't bring yourself down. Don't let your mistakes alone define who you are. Spend time to consider what your strengths and good qualities are. Move past your mistakes and work only on the repeated mistakes that are holding you back. Never neglect your strengths and good qualities.
  2. Build your knowledge base of social, practical, and professional thoughts, sayings, and practices. Spend some time learning about things you have an interest in or might be passionate about. Read articles and search for similar knowledge sites to learn more about what's possible. Even if you can't apply some of those things, be confident that they will serve you well in the future, or in unexpected ways.
  3. Never condemn or bemoan yourself. Rather, pay attention to confident, non-condemning people and gain confidence from observing or being around them. If you have a tendency towards jealousy, put that aside and just start incorporating the positive and admirable traits of others.
  4. Focus on learning and doing things to build up who you are, but not at the expense of others. Build on what you know, what you are capable of, what your strengths/passions are. Don't be discouraged or stressed out by mistakes. Think of mistakes as lessons in what to try differently next time. Thomas Edison once said: "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
  5. Develop yourself by practicing the seven virtues (regardless of being religious or not). The restraint and selflessness acquired will not only earn respect for yourself, but make you a better person overall.
  6. Expect respect from people as you respect others, and then expect more of it as you respect others more. Be true to yourself.
  7. Don't let others force you to do things you don't want to do just for their approval. Rather expect others to do uncomfortable or annoying tasks or service for you, if they expect you to do uncomfortable or annoying tasks or services for them. Otherwise you shouldn't be doing such things.
  8. Be friendly to everyone. Learn about different cultures and how respect works in those. Try not to judge others or their culture until you personally meet them and get to know them. You can ask them why they do what they do, as long as you explain the same about yourself and your own culture if they wonder why you asked them. Accept and maybe incorporate from each other. If you like your ways, simply be aware of different ways. When you are around a group of a different culture, consider conforming to their ways out of a sign of respect (ask how to do this since you will be expected to act somewhat like a foreigner). Maybe they will be able to do the same when they are around a group of your culture. However, don't worry about it too much. Different families and cultures expect others to act differently or to understand things differently. Some of that is very acceptable. Just be respectful of the differences. There is not one way of doing things or of being in this world. Respecting others way of being doesn't mean becoming their way of being.
  9. If you are having trouble getting hung up over someone romantically, be sure to learn about relationship and dating. At the same time, don't neglect developing other friends and interests, otherwise you won't have much to offer to a relationship, or even to yourself!
  10. Have fun as your develop friendships,interests, purposes, passions. Enjoy the journey of learning to respect yourself as a unique individual who has something to offer in this world.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

IDENTIFY AND LIVE YOUR PERSONAL VALUES

Values are traits or qualities that are considered worthwhile; they represent your highest priorities and deeply held driving forces. When you are part of any organization, you bring your deeply held values and beliefs to the organization. There they co-mingle with those of the other members to create an organization or family culture.

Value statements are grounded in values and define how people want to behave with each other in an organization, an institution, a company, or a family. They are statements about how the organization will value customers, suppliers, and the internal community. Value statements describe actions which are the living enactment of the fundamental values held by most individuals within the organization.

The following are examples of values. You might use these as the starting point for thinking about and articulating your values as a human being.

Examples of Values

ambition, competency, individuality, equality, integrity, service, responsibility, accuracy, respect, dedication, diversity, improvement, enjoyment/fun, loyalty, credibility, honesty, innovativeness, teamwork, excellence, accountability, empowerment, quality, efficiency, dignity, collaboration, stewardship, empathy, accomplishment, courage, wisdom, independence, security, challenge, influence, learning, compassion, friendliness, discipline/order, generosity, persistency, optimism, dependability, flexibility

Why Identify and Establish Your Values?

Your values are made up of everything that has happened to you in your life and include influences from: your parents and family, your religious affiliation, your friends and peers, your education, your reading, and more. Effective people recognize these environmental influences and identify and develop a clear, concise, and meaningful set of values/beliefs, and priorities. Once defined, values impact every aspect of your life.

  • You demonstrate and model your values in action in your personal and work behaviors, decision making, contribution, and interpersonal interaction.
  • You use your values to make decisions about priorities in your daily work and home life.
  • Your goals and life purpose are grounded in your values.

Choose the values that are most important to you, the values you believe in and that define your character. Then live them visibly every day at work and at home. Living your values is one of the most powerful tools available to you to help you be the person you want to be, to help you accomplish your goals and dreams, and to help you lead and influence others. Don't waste your best opportunity.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

THE POWER OF A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

I am going to ask you something very unusual right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let's say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone would be able to tell you what's on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer to number two can be pretty generic.

Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here's another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if they're waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your state of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too - unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn't end there. Your attitude can also affect people the around you. The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly exhilarating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a zapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the life, more or less you are fostering a negative attitude. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others around you feel the same way.

On the other hand, a negative attitude, has the opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a two-fold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to maintain healthy thoughts. This is actually very hard to do nowadays since all around us the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child,
only one is positive. This is truly a depressing thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts. You also have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, or spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing most people do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit with them, and listen to their thoughts and feelings. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention.

So you don't misunderstand what I'm saying, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn, but don't continually dwell on the subject or situation; change it!

If you are inundated with troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, it will always give you hope. Problems are something you can overcome.

You don't have anything to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually defers aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every
day. So, what's not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.